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Top Tips to Plan a Stress Free Wedding Day

Top Tips Blog how to plan a stress free wedding day

Here are my Top Tips for how to have a stress-free wedding planning journey

The first of my top tips needs to be addressed as soon as you are engaged.
 
Top Tips engagement talk about the wedding you wantIt might seem obvious to some but unless you’ve been discussing your wedding prior to getting engaged then you both need to think about what you want from your wedding day. Write a likes and dislikes list and compare. Talk through what is important to you and what is on the top of your list. Any other “wants” list them in priority order. Unless you have an infinite budget you won’t be able to include absolutely everything. This is the point in your relationship when you start to learn the fine art of COMPROMISE.
 
 
THE WEDDING BUDGET – the cause of tension if you don’t make a plan from the outset. Making sure you don’t overspend on individual elements will take the strain off of your purse strings. You can always reassess later down the line but having a guide at the start will keep your spending in check.
 
 
 
 
 
 
Start your planning – set a date!!
Be realistic don’t try and plan in less than 12 months if organisational skills aren’t one of your strengths. It can be done but it’ll just add to your wedding stress.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
THE WEDDING BUDGET – without a maximum spend to keep an eye on you have the potential to go over budget from the offset. Don’t start married life in debt. Consider how much disposable income you have and don’t go over that amount each month. This is another reason why it’s best to allow at least 12 months for your wedding planning.
 
 
 
 
 
Choosing a wedding venue
Before you even start to look for a venue get a provisional guest list written so you have an idea of how many guests you can expect to send invitations to. Do not look at any venues that are too small. It’ll only end in tears when you fall in love with a venue that cannot host your guest numbers.
 
 
 
 
 
Make sure you decide what type of day you want before approaching suppliers for availability and quotes. Although suppliers will be happy to supply a quote for you they are doing this in good faith and usually under the premise that you are genuinely interested and are actually considering booking them. So don’t be surprised if you contact 30 or so suppliers if 30 suppliers then continue to follow up with your enquiry. They aren’t doing it to annoy you – it’s their job.
 
 
 
Look around for inspiration. Set up a Pinterest account and pull some ideas together to see how it all looks together. Find things you like and dislike so you can get a clear idea of your wedding wishlist. You can get an app on your phone so you can pin where ever you are. And YES it is a bit addictive.
 
 
 
 
 
 
Look around for inspiration – buy a selection of wedding magazines – highlights details and ideas you like and dislike. This again helps clarify your wedding day vision and pull it all together.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Choosing your suppliers – meet any suppliers you have shortlisted before you give them a deposit. Make sure they are a good fit both personally and that they understand YOUR vision for YOUR wedding day. It is very important to be able to trust any suppliers that will be involved with BIG parts of your wedding day. I can’t even begin to tell you how miserable your day will be if you haven’t picked the right team.
 
 
 
 
 


Sian Bowron has been planning stress free wedding days for time strapped couples across Hampshire since 2012.
 
If you’d like to talk with Sian about how she can help make your wedding planning journey stress free then get in touch now.
 

 

Working out the budget – the 3rd step to achieving a stress free wedding

Working out the budget – the 3rd step to achieving a stress free wedding day

Welcome back to my blog series helping you achieve a stress free wedding day. Part 3 is dedicated to the wedding budget.

The dreaded B word. Love it or hate without it you would have no wedding.

It’s probably the most talked about part of your wedding planning, for some it’s less important but for others it’s a huge bone of contention.

So what is the wedding budget? It is whatever you want it to be. I know that doesn’t help much but it is the right answer. This is where individuality and personal circumstance come into play and also why talking about your wedding budget can be the cause of many arguments and disagreements.

Every engaged couple will have their own individual opinions and ideas about finances and how to manage them during their regular day to day life. Whilst a wedding budget isn’t a lot different in concept the sheer enormity of planning a wedding day can turn the most level headed of penny pinchers and deftly of budgeters in to a serial spender on eBay.

The wedding budget seems to defy all logic when it comes to the couple’s finances and sensible ideas about what they can actually afford to spend.

For some money can be the root of all evil, you either have enough for what you want to do or buy or you have champagne ideas with a beer budget. As with every other part of your wedding planning you do need to plan the budget too. I have seen a lot of couples spending on impulse and booking a double chocolate fountain before the food has been chosen, menu arranged and caterer booked. Whilst most people I know do like chocolate, although I’m not one of them, I’ve no doubt they’d rather be the grateful recipient of a decent meal rather than needing to gorge on dipping pieces of fruit and doughnuts in to molten chocolate. I could of course be wrong but if I didn’t offer guidance and the voice of reason concerning wedding matters what kind of wedding planner would that make me?

Here a few things to consider when calculating your wedding budget.
1) Work out how much of your monthly salary is easily available to put into the wedding pot. Don’t overstretch on a monthly basis as you don’t want the added stress on a relationship even before you tie the knot.
2) Do you have any financial contributions coming from other sources? Parents or grandparents? Savings from one or both of you?
3) How many months do you have between the beginning of your planning and the BIG day itself?

Once you have confirmed the amount of money available you’ll need to continue with the teamwork that we discussed in blog part 2 and don’t forget to include some self care time. Teamwork is vital when it comes to working out your priorities and the tasks associated with the planning of a wedding. Remember there are two people getting married.
I didn’t have a planned topic for the next part of the blog series before I got to this point but now I’m being pulled towards how to prioritise your wedding budget and how to find the best suppliers for your budget.

If you need a chat about your wedding planning and think you might be in need of my expertise and experience then don’t hesitate to get in touch and book a no obligation meeting. I’d be happy to meet up with you and talk about the vision you have for your big day and how I can help you pull all that together to create your dream wedding day without the stress.

Got any questions you want to ask me? Just email me and I’ll answer any questions via my blog.


Siân Bowron has been advising on, planning and coordinating weddings and other events since 2012. Previously a healthcare professional with a background in pharmacology, Siân decided to switch career after the birth of her son. She has brought the empathy, care and attention-to-detail so important in her former duties together seamlessly with her passion for wedding planning to serve the needs of her many satisfied clients.


Amethyst Weddings is owned and operated by Siân Bowron.
Offering advice, planning and on the day coordination services for weddings throughout Hampshire including all of the New Forest.
Contact Siân for more information on services available and to book your no obligation meeting on: enquiries@amethystweddings.co.uk | 07818 226729| https://amethystweddings.youcanbook.me/

Self care – the 1st step to achieving a stress free wedding

Selfcare – the first step to achieving a stress free wedding.

♥ Love yourself cos there is only one of you. ♥

If like me you run your own business you will no doubt have seen the phrase “self care” bandied about whenever talking about the day to day and week to week running of your business. Whether you are self employed, work for a large or a small company the principles of self care still apply. We all need some “me time” cos nobody can be in work mode 24/7 no matter how dedicated or conscientious you are.

Personally I like to meet up with friends for lunch or coffee and cake (even though I’m on a weight loss journey I still make allowances for the occasional piece of cake), go to the cinema, the theatre or an evening meal with my husband and my total indulgence for 100% me time is visiting the spa for a massage or spending time at the beach.

But “me time” needn’t cost a small fortune. It can be as simple as sitting in the garden listening to the birds and the breeze in the trees. Dancing to your favourite music, what’s that phrase “dance like there’s nobody watching”? Watching your favourite RomCom or soap on catch up tv or box set. For me it’s all about switching off from the hustle and bustle, the 9 to 5 slog that can grind us all down eventually if we let it. Overwhelm is a nasty thing, it saps you of any creativity or progress and can feel like you are drowning. It is really good friends with that well known feeling stress and I speak from personal experience. I think they spend their “me time” plotting what to throw at you next.

Planning a wedding is no different. You had a social life, a personal life and a work life before you started your wedding didn’t you? So what has changed?

What has changed is that you are now trying to still do everything and there isn’t enough time each day or week or month to achieve it all. So something had to give – you don’t see your friends as much now because any spare time you had before is now designated to wedding planning jobs, venue searches, supplier meetings. Your friends, your family, your bridesmaids can’t do right from wrong, they either aren’t interested enough or they are interfering too much. They can’t win! Planning a wedding can be all consuming but it doesn’t have to be.

So now it would be very obvious if I told you that the only solution is to employ a wedding planner. Why wouldn’t I? Why would I not? Get in touch and have a chat about how I can take away the stress of wedding planning. Blah blah blah. End of blog. Good Night!

Well I’m not!! Nope, no, nein, non, nee, net – instead I’m going to share some advice with you. So in the words of one of my favourite actresses “Let’s start at the very beginning. A very good place to start.”

♫♪♪ Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens ♫♪♪ Ooooppppssss sorry I digress 😉

Q1: Why are you planning a wedding?
The correct answer being: because I’ve finally found my soulmate and we want to spend the rest of our lives together, forever and ever AMEN.
You might read that and think “Well yeah that’s obvious” or you might read that and think “oh yeah that’s why we are planning this big expensive time consuming extravaganza to please everybody else forgetting what we as a couple actual want!” Sound familiar? Then change it. It’s your wedding so do what you both want. Your wedding needs to be something that you both are happy with. Primarily the day you are planning is about YOU. So if you have fallen into that pleasing everyone else trap already STOP  right now (♫♪♪ thank you very much. I need somebody ♫♪♪). Ooooppppssss 90s girlpower music flashback.

Carry on the same way and you will end up hating the wedding planning, dreading the next task and at worst regret the choices you made resulting in a wedding day that you don’t even recognise let alone enjoy.

Take it all back to basics. Remember why you want to get married and make YOUR day about the things you love. Don’t like formal three course dinners? Then don’t book a three course meal. ♫♪♬ It’s all about you, it’s all about you baby! ♫♪♬

Go back to basics and look after yourself. Do that and you’ll be on the way to a happy wedding planning experience.

I’ll be back with some more of my worldly wedding planning wisdom soon. So watch this space.

Got any questions you want to ask me? Just email me and I’ll answer any questions via my blog.


Siân Bowron has been advising on, planning and coordinating weddings and other events since 2012. Previously a healthcare professional with a background in pharmacology, Siân decided to switch career after the birth of her son. She has brought the empathy, care and attention-to-detail so important in her former duties together seamlessly with her passion for wedding planning to serve the needs of her many satisfied clients.


Amethyst Weddings is owned and operated by Siân Bowron.
Offering advice, planning and on the day coordination services for weddings throughout Hampshire including all of the New Forest.
Contact Siân for more information on services available and to book your no obligation meeting on: enquiries@amethystweddings.co.uk | 07818 226729 | https://amethystweddings.youcanbook.me/