Selfcare – the first step to achieving a stress free wedding.
♥ Love yourself cos there is only one of you. ♥
If like me you run your own business you will no doubt have seen the phrase “self care” bandied about whenever talking about the day to day and week to week running of your business. Whether you are self employed, work for a large or a small company the principles of self care still apply. We all need some “me time” cos nobody can be in work mode 24/7 no matter how dedicated or conscientious you are.
Personally I like to meet up with friends for lunch or coffee and cake (even though I’m on a weight loss journey I still make allowances for the occasional piece of cake), go to the cinema, the theatre or an evening meal with my husband and my total indulgence for 100% me time is visiting the spa for a massage or spending time at the beach.
But “me time” needn’t cost a small fortune. It can be as simple as sitting in the garden listening to the birds and the breeze in the trees. Dancing to your favourite music, what’s that phrase “dance like there’s nobody watching”? Watching your favourite RomCom or soap on catch up tv or box set. For me it’s all about switching off from the hustle and bustle, the 9 to 5 slog that can grind us all down eventually if we let it. Overwhelm is a nasty thing, it saps you of any creativity or progress and can feel like you are drowning. It is really good friends with that well known feeling stress and I speak from personal experience. I think they spend their “me time” plotting what to throw at you next.
Planning a wedding is no different. You had a social life, a personal life and a work life before you started your wedding didn’t you? So what has changed?
What has changed is that you are now trying to still do everything and there isn’t enough time each day or week or month to achieve it all. So something had to give – you don’t see your friends as much now because any spare time you had before is now designated to wedding planning jobs, venue searches, supplier meetings. Your friends, your family, your bridesmaids can’t do right from wrong, they either aren’t interested enough or they are interfering too much. They can’t win! Planning a wedding can be all consuming but it doesn’t have to be.
So now it would be very obvious if I told you that the only solution is to employ a wedding planner. Why wouldn’t I? Why would I not? Get in touch and have a chat about how I can take away the stress of wedding planning. Blah blah blah. End of blog. Good Night!
Well I’m not!! Nope, no, nein, non, nee, net – instead I’m going to share some advice with you. So in the words of one of my favourite actresses “Let’s start at the very beginning. A very good place to start.”
♫♪♪ Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens ♫♪♪ Ooooppppssss sorry I digress 😉
Q1: Why are you planning a wedding?
The correct answer being: because I’ve finally found my soulmate and we want to spend the rest of our lives together, forever and ever AMEN.
You might read that and think “Well yeah that’s obvious” or you might read that and think “oh yeah that’s why we are planning this big expensive time consuming extravaganza to please everybody else forgetting what we as a couple actual want!” Sound familiar? Then change it. It’s your wedding so do what you both want. Your wedding needs to be something that you both are happy with. Primarily the day you are planning is about YOU. So if you have fallen into that pleasing everyone else trap already STOP right now (♫♪♪ thank you very much. I need somebody ♫♪♪). Ooooppppssss 90s girlpower music flashback.
Carry on the same way and you will end up hating the wedding planning, dreading the next task and at worst regret the choices you made resulting in a wedding day that you don’t even recognise let alone enjoy.
Take it all back to basics. Remember why you want to get married and make YOUR day about the things you love. Don’t like formal three course dinners? Then don’t book a three course meal. ♫♪♬ It’s all about you, it’s all about you baby! ♫♪♬
Go back to basics and look after yourself. Do that and you’ll be on the way to a happy wedding planning experience.
I’ll be back with some more of my worldly wedding planning wisdom soon. So watch this space.
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Siân Bowron has been advising on, planning and coordinating weddings and other events since 2012. Previously a healthcare professional with a background in pharmacology, Siân decided to switch career after the birth of her son. She has brought the empathy, care and attention-to-detail so important in her former duties together seamlessly with her passion for wedding planning to serve the needs of her many satisfied clients.
Amethyst Weddings is owned and operated by Siân Bowron.
Offering advice, planning and on the day coordination services for weddings throughout Hampshire including all of the New Forest.
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