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Teamwork – the 2nd step to achieving a stress free wedding

Teamwork – the 2nd step to achieving a stress free wedding


Hello you lovely lot. Are you ready for some more of my worldly wedding planning wisdom?

Ok so in my last blog I discussed the importance of self care and how to make sure you don’t neglect yourselves during the planning process. If you haven’t read this blog you can read it here.

The second step to stress free wedding planning is teamwork – after all the whole point of a marriage is the TWO of you joining TWO lives together.
♫♪♪ Yes, teamwork, can make a dream work. ♫♪♪

It’s easy for the bride to be to take the lead on the wedding planning and is quite a natural thing as they are usually channelling their inner fairytale princess after having had visions of their “special day” since they heard their first fairytale or donned their first fancy dress outfit.
♫♪♪ Someday my prince will come. ♫♪♪
That was even before they met their Prince or Princess Charming so a bride to be or the groom to be could be forgiven for getting carried away and have his or her head in the clouds for a while.

♫♪ Cheer up, sleepy jean.
Oh, what can it mean.
To a daydream believer
And a homecoming queen. ♫♪♪

But with any marriage it only works if there is some give and take and both sides of the relationship have their own special roles to play.

In my own marriage I’m the go to for organisation, planning and practical day to day tasks. Whilst I’m also slightly impulsive and excitable my hubby is the sensible down to earth one who thinks everything through thoroughly before making a decision and is quiet, reserved and thoughtful. We couldn’t be more different on paper but we work well together and compliment each other nicely. That’s why we’ve been very happily married for 9 years now.

So how do you use all of your strengths and weaknesses to become the A team and create a wedding that represents both of you? That’s where teamwork comes in and of course a good old dose of that thing they call communication. All’s fair in love and war but let’s not start a war before rings are on fingers and the ink on the wedding certificate is still wet.

You may or may not know that I love lists. I’m a bit obsessed with them. I even have lists of the lists I have. What with that and my obsession with lyrics from musicals and films I think I’ve created a new genre of OCD. To work as a team firstly you need to write down what you want from your wedding day on separate lists – yes you read that correctly.
Step one is write one list each. Write down on one side what you do want and the other what you don’t want your wedding to be like.
Step two is compare and combine the lists. Whilst this may initially look like a recipe for frankenstein’s monster it will give you both an insight into what each other sees as a priority on the wedding day.
Step three you should now have a clearer idea of what you both want your wedding day to look like and which parts of each of your personalities you want to be incorporated or represented.

If it still looks a bit of a muddle maybe it’s time to get a professional on board to make the vision a reality. Being creative and merging couples styles is one of the things I love to do. I love bouncing ideas around and see what works for couples and what doesn’t. Sometimes you don’t know if you don’t like it until you see it. If you don’t like something than that’s fine as it’ll streamline your ideas until it becomes one cohesive idea that represents both of you in equal measure. I love it when a plan comes together 😉

In part 3 I’m going to talk about working out and sticking to your budget.

Got any questions you want to ask me? Just email me and I’ll answer any questions via my blog.


Siân Bowron has been advising on, planning and coordinating weddings and other events since 2012. Previously a healthcare professional with a background in pharmacology, Siân decided to switch career after the birth of her son. She has brought the empathy, care and attention-to-detail so important in her former duties together seamlessly with her passion for wedding planning to serve the needs of her many satisfied clients.


Amethyst Weddings is owned and operated by Siân Bowron.
Offering advice, planning and on the day coordination services for weddings throughout Hampshire including all of the New Forest.
Contact Siân for more information on services available and to book your no obligation meeting on: enquiries@amethystweddings.co.uk | 07818 226729| https://amethystweddings.youcanbook.me/

Self care – the 1st step to achieving a stress free wedding

Selfcare – the first step to achieving a stress free wedding.

♥ Love yourself cos there is only one of you. ♥

If like me you run your own business you will no doubt have seen the phrase “self care” bandied about whenever talking about the day to day and week to week running of your business. Whether you are self employed, work for a large or a small company the principles of self care still apply. We all need some “me time” cos nobody can be in work mode 24/7 no matter how dedicated or conscientious you are.

Personally I like to meet up with friends for lunch or coffee and cake (even though I’m on a weight loss journey I still make allowances for the occasional piece of cake), go to the cinema, the theatre or an evening meal with my husband and my total indulgence for 100% me time is visiting the spa for a massage or spending time at the beach.

But “me time” needn’t cost a small fortune. It can be as simple as sitting in the garden listening to the birds and the breeze in the trees. Dancing to your favourite music, what’s that phrase “dance like there’s nobody watching”? Watching your favourite RomCom or soap on catch up tv or box set. For me it’s all about switching off from the hustle and bustle, the 9 to 5 slog that can grind us all down eventually if we let it. Overwhelm is a nasty thing, it saps you of any creativity or progress and can feel like you are drowning. It is really good friends with that well known feeling stress and I speak from personal experience. I think they spend their “me time” plotting what to throw at you next.

Planning a wedding is no different. You had a social life, a personal life and a work life before you started your wedding didn’t you? So what has changed?

What has changed is that you are now trying to still do everything and there isn’t enough time each day or week or month to achieve it all. So something had to give – you don’t see your friends as much now because any spare time you had before is now designated to wedding planning jobs, venue searches, supplier meetings. Your friends, your family, your bridesmaids can’t do right from wrong, they either aren’t interested enough or they are interfering too much. They can’t win! Planning a wedding can be all consuming but it doesn’t have to be.

So now it would be very obvious if I told you that the only solution is to employ a wedding planner. Why wouldn’t I? Why would I not? Get in touch and have a chat about how I can take away the stress of wedding planning. Blah blah blah. End of blog. Good Night!

Well I’m not!! Nope, no, nein, non, nee, net – instead I’m going to share some advice with you. So in the words of one of my favourite actresses “Let’s start at the very beginning. A very good place to start.”

♫♪♪ Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens ♫♪♪ Ooooppppssss sorry I digress 😉

Q1: Why are you planning a wedding?
The correct answer being: because I’ve finally found my soulmate and we want to spend the rest of our lives together, forever and ever AMEN.
You might read that and think “Well yeah that’s obvious” or you might read that and think “oh yeah that’s why we are planning this big expensive time consuming extravaganza to please everybody else forgetting what we as a couple actual want!” Sound familiar? Then change it. It’s your wedding so do what you both want. Your wedding needs to be something that you both are happy with. Primarily the day you are planning is about YOU. So if you have fallen into that pleasing everyone else trap already STOP  right now (♫♪♪ thank you very much. I need somebody ♫♪♪). Ooooppppssss 90s girlpower music flashback.

Carry on the same way and you will end up hating the wedding planning, dreading the next task and at worst regret the choices you made resulting in a wedding day that you don’t even recognise let alone enjoy.

Take it all back to basics. Remember why you want to get married and make YOUR day about the things you love. Don’t like formal three course dinners? Then don’t book a three course meal. ♫♪♬ It’s all about you, it’s all about you baby! ♫♪♬

Go back to basics and look after yourself. Do that and you’ll be on the way to a happy wedding planning experience.

I’ll be back with some more of my worldly wedding planning wisdom soon. So watch this space.

Got any questions you want to ask me? Just email me and I’ll answer any questions via my blog.


Siân Bowron has been advising on, planning and coordinating weddings and other events since 2012. Previously a healthcare professional with a background in pharmacology, Siân decided to switch career after the birth of her son. She has brought the empathy, care and attention-to-detail so important in her former duties together seamlessly with her passion for wedding planning to serve the needs of her many satisfied clients.


Amethyst Weddings is owned and operated by Siân Bowron.
Offering advice, planning and on the day coordination services for weddings throughout Hampshire including all of the New Forest.
Contact Siân for more information on services available and to book your no obligation meeting on: enquiries@amethystweddings.co.uk | 07818 226729 | https://amethystweddings.youcanbook.me/